catching up

This past week Sarah got her first pair of ballet shoes. It was very exciting for her and she wears them all the time when we are home. All the time. It is so inspiring to watch someone with pure passion just enjoy what she is doing. I know that I get so caught up with things that I forget to just enjoy the moment.

As a parent I certainly did my share of learning lessons this past week also, for instance:

• The phrase "Don't cry over spilled milk" was not meant for the child, but for the over-the-edge-parent.


• Spaghetti is much easier to vacuum up after it has crusted up and dried to the floor, rather then while still sticky and fresh.


• Tantrums are contagious, for all involved.


• It is ok for Momma to work out or nap or whatever by herself, it makes for a much better home.

take the wheel

For so long now I have let my children set the mood of the day. If Sarah is tired and cranky, I end up cranky and yelling. If JR is squirmy and not his usual happy self at that same time, well, Momma just tends to throw in the towel. Cook me, I'm done. I realize that my reaction to this wee toddler is what sets the tone, not her oh-so-normal outbursts of unrestraint and spitfire energy.

I am the adult.
Me, I am the one in charge, not her.


Yeah, easy to think of after the fact, but when at the public pool and the baby is tired but fighting sleep and Sarah is also too tired to even think of controlling herself I tend to lose it. Here I was, two tired kids, only 1 hour into the thing and I was already packing it up. In the moment, I knew that it was better to just get them home then to fight with her. Once we got to the potty, did our business, went to the car where I changed the baby and was on our way I was assured from the kick to the back of my seat that I had made the right decision. We made it through the drive-through at Mickey D's and before I knew it they were both asleep. Quiet.

Yes, I can turn off those drasted Wiggles...
sorry guys.

I made it home and ate my salad with the kids sound asleep in the car (parked nicely in the garage within earshot) and that was a good salad. Maybe because I actually ate it while the chicken was still warm, or maybe because I got to eat slowly and enjoy every little bite. Either way, I guess there are times when you just know that it is better judgement and not throwing in the towel to make a quick getaway and who knows, you may even get to eat your lunch in peace.

Now I just hope that our new friend who is now pregnant with her second child doesn't get scared away from the craziness that can be a playdate with us.

blooming

Recently we had lost my Grandpa. As the summer sun has set it sights on warming us all over, it also has blossomed the beautiful sunflowers that he loved so much. My Nanny, the children's GG (great-grandma) was so proud to show off her wonderful blooms today. She has found her own little patch of sunshine, a smiling village right in her backyard. Pop loved those sunflowers, she said. They actually grew where she had a big bowl of birdseed and the birds seem to pick out what they want and throw the sunflower seed into the earth below, perhaps to enjoy the golden yellow stalks too, who knows really. Anyway, as they all face the sun, as sunflowers do, Nanny pointed out that one did not. This one simply stared at the house, somehow giving us comfort with it's raggedy top and content face. I know that Pop is watching out for her, watching over the house, watching where we gather as a family to love, to mourn, to sit in silence. He is there in that wrong way sunflower, he is there in his chair and at his desk. The one thing that saddens me is that although I can make sure that my children know him by face, in photo, they will never really know him like I did. My job is to take those things about him that I cherish and pass them down, to connect those most important people in my life.

the fruits of our labor

Sarah was so excited to find a red tomato on her little patio plant this weekend. She has told me that she will eat it, however, this is a child that will not eat pizza because of the red and who eats spaghetti with butter and cheese because she doesn't like the sauce, so we shall see.

The weekend weather was absolutely beautiful and we enjoyed a barbeque for a friend's son on Saturday and a show on Sunday(sans kids), with dinner outside at the Irish pub we like to go to afterward. Momma had two very large, delicious, cold beers and was a wee little buzzed on the way home.

We woke up today to sound of the summer rain on the roof, so we will probably just do our Costco shopping, which the list is quite large this week. It usually takes me all day just to put everything away after getting everything that we need there - in fact, hubby would chime in that I usually leave some stuff right outside on the garage floor since I know I will need it anyway.

so here's to shopping and finding very large bottles of apple juice and crates of diapers.....

dream it

Right this moment I looked over at my little girl to catch a glimpse of what she was doing : dressed up in a very large, baby blue colored princess dress she is swinging a Dora baseball bat yelling home run. Then, as she runs, she tries to fix her little orange plastic pumps and prances around the bases. That is what I want for her, to have all she needs. The fun, the pride, to not worry about what others "might" think or say of her. I want her to dream big and live bigger. I want her to trust her gut and do the right thing. To help people and be compassionate. To work out because it is good for her body, not to get to the perfect weight. To eat healthy because it feels good, not to deprive herself or try to attain am image we are "told" is the standard.

hey, wait, am I talking about me or my little girl?

snapshot sunday

I really need to try harder to see the world as my little girl does. Nothing is as important as that cup of cold juice and watching "Little Bear" on tv. Bugs and anything moving around outside is "coool Momma" and splashing around in the pool is the best part of the day. Yesterday we spotted quite a few butterflies in the backyard while we were outside painting, so we decided to go "hunting" for some pics.

teach me some more little girl, show me where my patience lies.......

temper, temper

I was recently watching a new mother walking the neighborhood, pushing along her little darling. How quiet, how peaceful. I remember when Sarah was younger and everyone would comment on what a good baby she was, how I will never get another child that well behaved. We would go to friend's houses and everyone was shocked at how nice she sat in the stroller without fussing for longer periods of time. Or how she was sweet and noticeably smart she was. I was the proud Momma of a good baby. I was appalled at the mothers who seemed to have no control of their children, whose kids threw embarrassing tantrums, right there in front of everyone!

Fast forward to my sweet little girl at the age of 2 1/2.
Tantrums, fights, even trying to make a deal here and there: "Momma, how 'bout only 2 minutes in time out, ok?"

Last night we tried for a short walk around the block after dinner. This ended with me and hubby passing her back and forth, football style, after she threw herself on the ground kicking and screaming. Then she pulled my hair and injured my breast. So the three minute walk ended with a time out and some chocolate. (the chocolate of course being for me)

snapshot sunday

this pic is back from March/07 and my little girl already is looking older, but, still my baby....

oddities

Things heard 'round the house this past week:

• "Sarah, we do not touch anyone's penis, ever" (bathtub incident)
• "Yes little man, I know you have feewings" (as she tried to comfort her brother, not about the penis thing....)
• "Mommy, I need to go in the pool and earn my wrinkles" (about her cute little fingers)
• "Oh my God! Oh my God! He is in tr-o-u-ble!!! (about her little brother knocking her castle over)

snapshot sunday

where did all the chocolate ice cream go?

now, could someone please come and clean this kid up?